Good Bye, God Bless – Julie

For those unable to attend Julie’s Funeral – My Eulogy to her

Goodnight Sweetheart – Sleep Well………………

It was a dark and stormy night the first time that I met Jules on Dec 9th 2009. We immediately clicked.

After a couple of more dates she invited me to her house for Christmas Dinner on Christmas Day.

As it turns out it was a truly memorable meal, because it was the only one that she has ever cooked for me.

She would often say that her main forte in the kitchen was “warming things up”.

If there was a TV programme called “The Great British Warmer Upperer” –she would win it hands down.

Fortunately for us , it snowed like Billy ho that Christmas . Roads were blocked and so on, and to cut  a long story short  I went to Julies for Christmas Day Lunch and didn’t leave till the middle of January.

From that day forward we were inseparable.

18 months later we got the news ……………


We would have several high powered meetings to discuss medical matters with the Cancer team at Christies (the top Cancer Hospital in the North of England)

Which was great…

After every meeting I would ask Jules  “What did you think of that ?”

She would invariably say “What a bunch of Knobheads, they have no idea what they are talking about.”

She was her own woman

From the start, she point blank refused radiation, chemotherapy and drugs such as Tamoxofin to treat her illness on the basis that it would ruin her immune system and stop her living life to the full, in the time that she had left.

The pressure to conform to the norm was enormous.  But she stood her ground and I supported her tooth and nail. We became a formidable team and we completely changed our lifestyle.


Instead she choose to ……………..

  • Juice
  • Organic
  • No Sugar
  • No chemicals etc

And just build up her body to fight this insidious illness and live the best life that we possibly could,

And so we did.

We knew that the clock was ticking. Her only regret was that we would not have the luxury of an old age together.

So we decided to sod everything and have our old age right now .


So we retired and decided to travel

  • Germany
  • Denmark
  • Estonia
  • Russia
  • Norway (Nul point)
  • Finland
  • Iceland
  • Italy
  • Portugal – six times
  • Spain
  • Greece
  • France – drove to the south of France twice with the caravan and the dogs
  • Belgium
  • Holland
  • Austria
  • Bosnia
  • Slovenia
  • Canada
  • Malta (Douze points)
  • Germany
  • Canada
  • Alaska in the US
  • Florida in the US
  • The Caribbean including amongst others …………
  • Grenada
  • Puerto Rico
  • St Kitts and Nevis


  • And last but not least
  • Garstang ………..


Garstang was one of the first places that we tried out what Julie would  call our “Caravan of Luurve”

You know ……. “Don’t come knocking, if the Caravan’s a Rocking” !!!!

We had endless happy weekends and, indeed weeks, with our camping buddies, her cousin Corinne and Ian and other great folks that we met along the way.


She was always happy around cars, lorries and transport in general.

She was Cab Happy as she would say.

Just last September we went to Croatia to meet up with our Canadian friends

Normal people would go to Manchester Airport, get on a plane and Relax.  Not our Jules ….

Oh No – We were going to drive …

She said all we have to do is drive through Belgium, Holland, Germany, Austria, Slovenia, Bosnia and we will be there …..!!!!

I could never win – and off we trolled

Her love of transport was enhanced by being Manager at Leach Transport and latterly working with Mark and John at RMS . She absolutely adored working with all of you.

She was practical too. I remember once we were going to see our fabulous holistic people in Shropshire and we had a tyre blow out in the fast lane on the M6 at half past seven in the morning, which is not the best place to be.

We managed to get onto the hard shoulder .

She said “Don’t Panic, Just keep hold of the F ing Dog” and within seven minutes she had changed the tyre and we were off.

It was like watching  a Formula one pit stop

On the transport theme her favourite perfume was not Chanel or Dior but “Eau de Diesel” .

If i was feeling lucky , a couple of dabs of Esso Blue behind my ears at night and we were off …..

Too much information ……….I know


Another One of Julie’s characteristics was that she was selfless at helping other people.

In fact, one of the many cards that I received reflects that part of her personality. It was from someone that I don’t know and have never met.

It read:

“She was one in ten million, or more. What a wonderful person Julie was. She looked after me when I got into a right bloody mess on drink. She took me under her wing. That‘s the sort of person she was.


Not only was Julie widely respected in Rochdale, she also cast her smile across the globe. Today, there are people who cannot be here from Vancouver to Sydney and places in between who have told me that they will be wearing Red in her honour.

She had a special bond with her Canadian friends with whom we had many fantastic, exotic and boisterous times. In fact I can share with you an Email from her special Canadian friend Sandra.

It reads:

“I am so sorry that I am not able to deal with what is happening

I believe that Julie knows how much I love her and know that you are the support that she wishes.

She is an amazing woman that i have had the honour of being close to. We have shared so many memories and tons of love. Over the last passing months I have reminisced with laughter and tears .

She has an enormous place in my heart. I love her ….and always will ….today, tomorrow and always…..”


I met Julie on the basis of a huge smile that she posted on the internet.

A smile that would melt my heart, and a lot of others who crossed paths with her.

That smile completely changed both of our lives.

We became best friends, lovers and ended up with the perfect marriage.

It was perfect because we ticked all the boxes to which we agreed on New Year’s Eve 2011 when we got married.

We agreed to be:

  • For richer – we did that
  • For poorer – we did that
  • In sickness – we did that
  • In Health – we did that
  • Till Death us do part

It’s the last one that I’m not too keen on, but thanks Jules for being perfect.

Love You

God Bless




Tiffany Writes:

Tiffany Writes:

Stuart, I have just read your blog about Julie coming home.I have just come back home from my first Dance class in Eastbourne after being released from the Unit. My good friend Horatio Fellatio was fantastic and visited me every week, and those rumours about me in the storeroom are complete LIES .

The tag ruins my leggings, though

How is the bulge in your leggings? I hope it is under control. Maybe you could come down to Eastbourne and we could do some “planking”.

Speak soon.

Stuart writes: I thought that you had a restraining order.I will be writing to the warden soon.

Julie is Home ….

In 2011 when Julie was first diagnosed with cancer the medics gave her about three years life expectancy as long as she did chemo, radiation and took the drugs that they prescribed.

We had both seen friends of ours suffer badly and ultimately succumb the prescribed regime.

Cancer is a bit of a bitch. When you get medical professionals telling you this sort of thing you can either tow the party line, or do your own thing.

The tipping point for us came quite early on in the diagnosis.

Jules said to me “Look…, the one thing about all of this is that we won’t be able to live long and enjoy our old age together.”

So we decided to have our old age together NOW !!

The outcome was to eschew medical opinions and crack on with a healthy alternative lifestyle in order to get the absolute best out of the time that you have left.

At the same time knowing that the clock is ticking.

With that in mind we said “No conventional medicine ! “Thank you”, we are off on our own journey”.

As a result, we packed in our jobs and downsized our lives as well as changing our nutrition and surroundings to the healthiest lifestyle that we could muster.

We then embarked on a series of adventures, the least of which were “great” and the best of which were “absolutely fabulous”.

Our latest excursion took place in Sept 2016 when we arranged to meet our Canadian friends at a villa in Croatia. They would fly in from Toronto and we would meet them in Croatia.

Simple …..? No … !!!

Julie decided that it would be a good idea to drive, which when you think about it is not a bad idea because you get to see the length of Europe.

As it turns out, it was a fantastic drive through Holland, Germany, Austria, Slovakia, Bosnia and Croatia with some wonderful scenery.

After a four day drive we arrived at a fantastic villa that our Canadian friends had arranged for us to stay in for a week or so.

It was excellent !!  Perfect !!

We had a great day catching up with our great friends and exploring the local area which was exceptional.

The next day, we got a ferry from our waterfront villa to the island of Korcula. A famous Croatian landmark. As we walked down to the ferry Jules said “I don’t want to worry anyone, but I am peeing blood”

Not  …… “I have blood in my pee”……..But, “I am peeing blood..!!”

There is a not a subtle difference. This opinion was confirmed by the only Medic on Korcula Island who diagnosed a ferry ride and then a two hour trip the nearest hospital in Dubrovnik.

This was like having a major medical incident in Manchester and then being told that if you wanted to be treated you would have to drive yourself to Birmingham, or beyond, on the off chance that a Doctor would be available.

That drive was the most stressful event I think that I have ever endured. Our villa was on a peninsula called Peljesac and the drive involved two hours of twisty tourney cliff roads. Just like the ones that are on Top Gear and James bond films. However, when Julie was in utter, utter agony and throwing up on the back seat (plus, we did not know where the hospital was) my stress levels were unbelievably high.

In fact, when we were high in the mountain region of the peninsula. I thought that she had passed away on the back seat of the car.

Fortunately, she hadn’t and by the time that we had got to Dubrovnik had recovered consciousness and was able to guide me to the hospital by lying on the back seat and using the Map App by saying “Left, Left, Right, Right, You’ve gone wrong you pillock !!!”

All because she wasn’t able to sit up and look through the car window.

We got to Dubrovnik “A and E” hospital in the end. A 1950’s communist grey breeze block building, if ever I saw one !! Something straight out of a film set. Steel shutter doors, dim lit corridors, or, indeed, unlit corridors. But fabulous nursing staff… !!!

After a lengthy assessment in A and E the medics decided that kidney stones were the problem and that Jules had to be admitted to the main hospital.

What a joy that was. A trip back in time to 1960’s Communist Yugoslavia!!

By this time, it was 10.00 pm and there was absolutely no way that I was going to drive back to P. Two hours on unlit coastal roads with no co-pilot was not the best idea in the world, so we decided that I should check into a hotel in downtown Dubrovnik.

This was one of those weird situations where you check into a hotel in a foreign town that you haven’t a clue where you are, in the middle of the night, with just the clothes that you stand up in, shorts and Tee shirt !!

After three days and a load of intrusive tests , the Croatian medics decided that the issue was nothing to do with her cancer but was a kidney stone episode. We were happy with that diagnosis and after three days we drove back to the villa with Jules pretty much restored to full health apart from a dull ache in and around her hip.

The rest of the time in Croatia went swimmingly (apart from me having to go to Hospital in Split for one day – but that is another story !!!!)

Julie’s dull hip ache did not really go away, but we managed to spend the rest of our holiday with our Canadian buddies and pretty much shared the driving back from the Balkan States to catch our ferry from Rotterdam to the UK.

We landed in England on the Wednesday morning and drove home for a quick turn-around so that we could drive down to the South of England for a pre arranged Reunion with my University mates. Another 400 mile round trip !!!.

By this time, Julie’s hip pain was getting a lot stronger and spreading around her back and ribcage.

Those damned kidney stones, we presumed.

The following week Julie’s kidney stone pain becomes increasingly intolerable. We had always had a code of “How is the pain?” based on a score of 0 to 10. Zero was, obviously, no pain; to ten which meant “Call an ambulance NOW !!!! ”

As the week progressed the pain hovered between five and sevenish.  On the Thursday night I knew it was a ten, but Jules said it was a seven so I had to abide by her score.

Come Friday morning, she immediately had to admit that it was a ten …..!!!!She was in unbearable agony and no matter what we did could not even get her out of bed, let alone get her dressed or downstairs, it was desperate measures.

Oh shit….!!! It was phone 999 time which is a phone number that you do not take likely nor often in your lifetime.

I called the Emergency Operator and gave her all the details asking for an ambulance, without delay, because Julie was in great pain and distress and that I could not get her out of bed because of:

  • “Breast Cancer”
  • “Spinal Cancer and Spinal Compression”
  • “Immobility and Acute Pain “
  • “Nausea etc……”

After answering the standard operator questions, she said, and I quote:

“I’m afraid that the computer says that your wife does not need an Ambulance and should go to her GP in due course for assessment.”

I went fucking ballistic….!!!

After a few more acutely pointed phone conversations with the emergency services a very very kindly trio of paramedics arrived and, with appropriate pain relief, finally managed to extricate Julie from the bedroom and onwards to be admitted to the EAU (Emergency Assessment Unit) at Salford Royal Hospital in Manchester.

To cut a very long story short, the CT scan showed that Julie’s pain was nothing to do with kidney stones whatsoever. In fact, her cancer had spread to her liver, pelvis and further down her spine into the lumber region. The cancer had caused her lumbar vertebrae to crumble and compress her spinal nerves.

However, the big, hitherto unknown issue was that there was a massive tumour at the top of Julie’s femur (Thigh Bone) which, if she was to put any pressure on, would fracture forthwith. The medics, immediately, confined her to bed until they;

  1. Dealt with her acute pain  issues,
  2. Figured out what to do with her hip,
  3. Controlled the crumbling spine.
  4. Identified anything else that needed sorting out.

For the next two weeks or so Julie was confined to bed in the Spinal Unit whilst the Pain Relief Team figured out what the correct dose of Morphine and other heavy duty shit was needed to get her, at least, comfortable.

Nothing worked.

Eventually, after a couple of weeks, someone in the “Bright Spark Dept.” decided that the way forward was to give Jules a Total Hip Replacement so that her femur wouldn’t fracture and that it would remove the cancer eating into the bone at the top of her thigh. This was a good plan apart from the fact that it would not stop the agony of having a compressed spine. Unfortunately, it made sense to do the total hip replacement to at least give Julie a chance to stand up once again.

Without it, she never would.

Our concern was that, after the hip job, she would still have the spinal pain in addition to the post operative pain from her hip replacement. Furthermore, she would have to wait a couple of weeks to recover before the spine team could swoop in and perform their magic. Normally, nowadays, they get you up and walking about after a hip replacement, but in this case that would be impossible because of the agonising spinal cancers.

As a consequence, she would lose what is considered to be vital physiotherapy because she had to wait for a couple of weeks by lying in bed waiting for the Spinal Team to come up with their cunning plan.

Needless to say, Julie was duly prepped and “Nil by Mouth” for the Hip Op. Everything was going to plan until about mid afternoon when the Op was cancelled because some poor woman had decided to throw herself from a Motorway Bridge over the M57 on the morning of Jules’ operation. Salford Royal is the trauma hospital for the central Manchester area so the surgeon who was scheduled to give Julie her new Hip had to piece together this poor lady. At around 3.00pm the surgeon called off the Op which knocked everything back for a few days before the Op eventually took place.

More pain and frustration.

After another couple of weeks the Spinal Ninja Team decided to apply themselves to Julie’s vertebrae and their calculated plan was to inject her cancerous vertebrae with cement. That would be two measures of sand, one of cement and a tablespoon of calcium for bone stability.

It would now be a month of Julie lying on her back looking at the ceiling and all the various indignities that go with that.

It would be a further two weeks or so before a complete meltdown meant that something positive had to be done. During that time, just to add to the fun, a poor old dear with complete dementia was put onto the ward. Six other ladies, including Julie, in varying states of recovery were then subjected to 36 hours of continuous screaming.

When I say screaming, I mean the sort of screaming that means that you cannot hear what someone is saying across a hospital bed, a distance of some four or five feet.

There is nothing like a challenge to recovery and that is only the thin end of the story but it would be unfair to delve into that.

After a further two weeks had elapsed the tipping point occurred.

In our minds, potentially, there was no end to the daily, weekly, monthly cycle of medical routines. Julie was very upset, to say the least.

So we asked the medics “What would it take to get out of here?”

Having asked the question, we duly overcame the various obstacles within a few days and Julie come home to admittedly little fanfare and some trepidation on my part as the main nurse, cook and washer upperer.

On 29th November 2016 Julie came home after six, or so, horrendous weeks in hospital under the care of the Spinal Team, Oncologists, Orthopaedics, Medical Team and the Palliative Care Wallahs all of whom were brilliant in their own idiosyncratic ways.

The next month was brilliant.

No pain to speak of, full mobility and a generally “normal” life.

On New Year’s Eve (Our Wedding Anniversary) the old pain kicked in again.

That Cancer is a Bitch.

So I spent New Year’s Day going from Palliative Care Team to Emergency Doctor to find a Pharmacy that was open and also stocked a particular type of Morphine.

A New Year challenge that I didn’t expect to have to do so soon.


For anyone who thinks that just because Julie is out of hospital that she is “better”.

Far from it……

However, we will regroup and rethink.

Somehow and from somewhere bright ideas will come forth and ever onward…………………………….

A Quiet Message.

Julie got diagnosed with cancer five years ago and decided to deal with her cancer through what have to be defined as “alternative” therapies.

That is to say, non mainstream National Health Treatments. (Surgery, Chemotherapy, Radiation and Drugs)

The point about diseases like cancer or losing a leg is that they are non-negotiable. Non-negotiable meaning that you have to do something. It is one of those events which are both life threatening and, or life changing.

Burying your head in sand will not help the situation, or make it go away.

Negotiable illnesses, such as the Flu and so on, can be dealt with by either taking pills and / or going to bed for a few days in the knowledge that it will eventually subside.

So, we had a non-negotiable event on our hands. We had to do something.

Instead of following the party line (Surgery, Chemotherapy, Radiation and Drugs) we asked ourselves the fundamental question “What caused Julie’s Cancer?”

The logic being that if we could figure out the cause and eliminating it, then it may assist in her long term recovery.

We embarked on an intense period of research and meetings for advice with a whole spectrum of people from Doctors in Harley Street to amateur, but knowledgeable, nutritionists, homeopaths etc.

Indeed, some of the best advice would come from people who had had cancer or were currently dealing with their issues in a similar manner to Julie.

One of the overwhelming pieces of advice was, without a doubt, “Completely eliminate sugar from your diet “ as this not only may fuel cancer but possibly have caused it.

I won’t go into all the other factors that we investigated, but eliminating sugar was so powerful an argument that we implemented it immediately.

Bear in mind, this decision was made some five years ago. Long before the current debate on sugar in diet, most of which currently focus upon obesity, diabetes but not the link to Cancer.

This is very frustrating.

What is even more frustrating is that the medical world has known about this connection for almost a century.

The Potted Science Bit

In the 1920’s a Dr. Otto Warburg discovered that cancerous cells “breathe” differently from healthy cells. In fact he was awarded the Nobel Prize for Medicine twice for his finding in 1931 and 1944, although he was prevented from picking up his second prize as Adolf Hitler had allegedly issued a decree in 1937 which prevented any German national from accepting Nobel Prizes for any discipline.

Specifically, he found that cancer cells get their energy by breaking down large amounts of glucose (sugar) through fermentation. Whereas, normal cells get their energy by “breathing” oxygen.

Ergo, the prime cause of cancer is the replacement of oxygen in normal body cells by the fermentation of glucose (sugar).  This change in energy production in your body happens when oxygen levels drop below a certain level and your cell’s “breathing process” is forced to change from using oxygen to fermenting glucose (sugar), thus turning normal cells into cancer cells.

What is worse is that fermentation is about 20 times less efficient than using oxygen and the process creates lactic acid as a by product. The liver then takes up the lactic acid and converts it back into glucose (sugar), which fires back into your body to fuel the cancer cells.

Cutting out sugar seemed a good place to start, based on Dr. Otto Warburg’s findings and subsequent research over the last 70 years.

That is, therefore, precisely what we did.

Systematically cleared our kitchen of all food with sugar on the labels (and any with preservatives and “E” numbers by the way) and started on a sugar free diet for the last five years.

Our first visit to Christies main hospital in Manchester, which is a world renowned Cancer Hospital, involved an eight hour visit to several departments. The work they do is great, but the frustrating part of the visit is that in each department and in each Café / Restaurant the only options for food were either vending machines full of Coca Cola, chocolate, fruit bars, Haribo sweets etc.

At Cristie’s subsidiary dept at Manchester Royal there is a small Café which also sells all things sugary !!

Even at the Hospice where Julie had to go for a few weeks of treatment their Reception area has a rack of sustenance which sells exclusively chocolate and sweets !!

So even in God’s Waiting Room the message has not got through.

It is equivalent to having a free bar giving out vodka at meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Equally frustrating are well meaning Charity Fundraising Events. Inevitably, this involves a gathering of very well meaning people who bake and sell cakes for their local hospice.

Again, I make the analogy – it is akin to making homebrew to sell on behalf of the local AA Meetings.

Finally, I have on my desk, at the moment, three documents that are handed out to Cancer patients in the UK:

  1. “Live a Healthy Life – Cut your Cancer Risk” – Cancer Research UK

This has no mention of sugar and its implications for Cancer.

  1. “Healthy Eating and Cancer” – A MacMillan Document

I quote Page 26 which says:

 “Does Sugar feed Cancer?”

“Sugar in your diet doesn’t directly increase the risk of Cancer, or encourage it to grow. But sugar contains no useful nutrients, apart from energy, and we can get all the energy we need from healthier sources. So it is best to limit the amount of sugar in your diet”

There are equally innocuous statements on pages 28 and 29 about organic foods. (Waste of time – they say) and Anti- Cancer diets (Waste of time – they say)

  1. “The Building Up Diet” – A MacMillan Document

To be fair on page 5 they do say

“Just a small amount of food high in fat, salt and sugar” and “ drinks should mainly be water, tea and coffee (without sugar) or sugar free drinks , colas and squashes.”

Unfortunately, there are no sugar free colas or squashes, and the ones that claim to be sugar free are full of aspartame and the like, which is potentially even more damaging to health than even refined sugar.

The booklet then goes on to list a few recipes which include yummy yummy sugary ingredients.

Fur Fox Sake !!!

I am getting more and more annoyed with myself as I write this missive so I had better sign off.

In conclusion, in my opinion:

  • If you have Cancer – Eliminate sugar from your diet.
  • If you do not want to get Cancer in future – Eliminate sugar from your diet.
  • If you are raising funds for Cancer Charities – Do not sell sugary things.
  • If you run a Café in a Hospice or Cancer Hospital – Do not sell sugary things.
  • If you are a volunteer in a Hospice or Cancer Hospital – Do not sell sugary things.

Over to you…..

End of Message.




In September 2015 after about six weeks of increasing agony in her back Julie finally succumbed and agreed to see the Doctor. She had been convincing herself that the pain was “just a trapped nerve !!”.

Deep down, however, I think that we both knew that it was the Cancer in her spine getting a grip. The deciding moment came when she could neither sit up nor lay down without being in extreme pain.

I immediately deduced with my cunning skills that the time had come for medical intervention. We duly went to see the white coat brigade, who were fantastic ..!!

The cancer had grown around her vertebrae had had started to push into the spinal column, effectively initiating a crush upon the spinal cord.

Now…….If you ever hear the phrase “There is something crushing your spinal cord” I would advise that you sit up (if you can) and start taking notes (or get someone to start scribbling). The reason is that the next part of the conversation involves phrases like:

  • “If we don’t do something” …
  • “You will lose control of your bladder..”
  • “You will lose control of your bowels…”
  • “You will be paralysed from the chest downwards..”
  • “You will die…”

As I was the one taking notes, none of these were standing out as great options, apart from the……. “Let’s do something, strategy  ..!!”.

The “Do something…” options were:

Option 1 – Cut out as much of the cancer as possible that was pressing on the spinal cord. Remove part of the vertebra and replace with titanium plate, rods and screws.

This would not cure or remove the tumour, but would relieve the pressure on the spinal cord. Resulting in ……… being able to pee at will, poo at will, dance at will, and not die.

These were all good outcomes, we decided.

Option 2 – There was no option 2

Very swiftly, Julie was admitted to the “lying in bed” ward of North Manchester Hospital. Where, true to its name, she lay in bed for a week, before being transferred to the Spinal Unit at Salford Royal Hospital for some proper bed lying, and then her operation.

The operation was an unqualified success.

No paralysis and no death.

These are “good” outcomes in the world of Spinal Cancer.

So, those of you who worry about having a heavy cold or worrying about what your neighbour thinks of your lawn. Get a grip.

After the best part of a week in Intensive Care Julie was despatched home to be looked after by yours truly, who quickly donned my nurse’s outfit (Photos available on request, for those feeling a bit pervy – Fees may apply).

After a month of recuperation and scar healing (Julie’s back now having the semblance of a zipper) the big decision came whether to have a 10 Day course of Radiation to target the Cancer and limit any further spread.

For five years Julie has railed against any form of Chemo, Radiation or Anti Cancer Drugs on the Basis that they do more damage than good. This is why we have followed the Holistic and Nutrition Route since 2011.

For whatever reason, probably fatigue and weariness, she agreed to the Radiation Treatment in Novemberish 2015.

This is what happened…

  • Her chest came out in a rash of boils and “stuff” that made the victims of the Bubonic Plague look like pictures of health.
  • It damaged her gullet and made swallowing difficult.
  • She developed a persistent racking cough that lasted a month and was so severe that she gave herself a stomach hernia.
  • She developed two new tumours in her back that stuck through her skin that looked like golf balls had been sewn under her skin. And the scan showed that there were new tumours in her lymph glands and liver.

Was the traditional Radiation Treatment a success?

Was it FUCK .. !!!

The outcome was just as we had feared and predicted, but only worse.

We told the Oncologist and his staff that Julie would have no further NHS treatment and we would sort her out using Alternative Therapy. They accepted this with good grace but STILL tried very hard to push more Chemo and Drugs into the equation.

Did we panic ?

No, actually. Because you have to accept what is the reality of the situation.

We went back to basics AND MORE. We had to up the ante. The Oncologist’s view was that the tumours would get bigger and needed containing by being closely monitored. Our view was that the tumours needed to be reduced and ultimately disappear.

Naïve? Maybe.

Optimistic ? Certainly.

After now some five months of Back to Basics in terms of Nutrition and Supplements plus the addition of:

  • We bought an Infra Red Sauna to get sweaty and get rid of toxins.
  • We changed from Hydrogen Peroxide Therapy once a week to daily Ozone Therapy (One more Oxygen Molecule released)
  • Invested in a Kinesiology session to “straighten things out”.
  • Applied, twice per day, pure unadulterated Frankincense Oil directly to the tumour locations.
  • Also other stuff which I can’t remember, like positive thinking and getting enough sleep blaa blaa…

The situation now after five months is:

  • The Lymph Tumour has appeared to have gone.
  • One Golf Ball Tumour appears to have gone.
  • The other Golf Ball Tumour has shrunk to the size of a pea.
  • We have no idea have the Liver tumour because we don’t have X- Ray vision. But we are optimistic.

This outcome was confirmed by the Oncologist on our last visit.

He didn’t push any more treatment, nor ask what we were doing. He merely said, and I quote.

“Whatever it is you are doing, keep on doing it”.

End of Message

Magnesium and General Health

I was at Pilates this morning and the subject of magnesium came up.

No one realised its importance. I recall posting a blog about magnesium and Cancer some months ago. So, here to remind myself and hopefully help someone out there is my rough take on Magnesium for general health.

Have a read….

Magnesium – For Better Health

Magnesium is perhaps one of the most overlooked minerals. This is especially important because, an estimated 80 percent of the western world is deficient in it. The health consequences of deficiency can be quite significant, and can be aggravated by many, if not most, prescription drugs.

Magnesium—One of Your Most Important Minerals

Magnesium is a crucially important mineral for good health, performing a wide variety of functions, including but not limited to:

  • Activating muscles and nerves
  • Creates energy in your body at a cellular level
  • Helps digest proteins, carbohydrates, and fats
  • Acts as a building block for RNA and DNA synthesis
  • Assists neurotransmitters like serotonin (affecting your mood and behaviour)

Nowadays few people get enough magnesium in their diet. Meanwhile, calcium tends to be overused via excessive dairy consumption.

This can cause more harm than good, as it’s important to have a proper balance between the two minerals.

If you have too much calcium and not enough magnesium, your muscles will tend to go into spasm, and this has consequences for your heart in particular.

“What happens is, the muscle and nerve function that magnesium is responsible for is diminished. If you don’t have enough magnesium, your muscles go into spasm. Calcium causes muscle to contract. If you had a balance, the muscles would do their thing. They’d relax, contract, and create their activity,”  (Dr Carolyn Dean)

Magnesium is thus critical for heart health, as excessive amounts of calcium without the counterbalance of magnesium can lead potential problems.

How much Calcium and Magnesium ?

Over the past 30 years, women have been told to take calcium to avoid osteoporosis.

Many foods have also been fortified with extra calcium to prevent calcium deficiency among the general population. Despite such measures, osteoporosis has continued to climb.

“I’ve heard statistics like a 700 percent rise in osteoporosis in a 10-year period, even while taking all this calcium,” Dr. Dean.

“The myth that’s been created about calcium is that we need twice as much calcium as we do magnesium. Most of the supplements reflect this. We’ve got a situation where people are taking 1,200 to 1,500 milligrams of calcium and maybe a few hundred milligrams of magnesium.” (Dr Dean

In actual fact the ratios need to be about the same. For example 400mg of Calcium and 400mg of Magnesium.

Also Address Your Vitamin K2 and D Ratios

Calcium and magnesium also needs to be balanced with vitamin D and K2.

These four nutrients balance together, with one supporting the other.

Lack of balance between them is why calcium supplements have become associated with increased risk of heart attacks and stroke.

Part of the explanation for these side effects is that vitamin K2 keeps calcium in its appropriate place. If you’re K2 deficient, added calcium can cause more problems than it solves, by accumulating in the wrong places.

Similarly, if you take vitamin D, you need to also take vitamin K2 and more magnesium. Taking mega doses of vitamin D supplements without sufficient amounts of K2 and magnesium can lead to vitamin D overload and magnesium deficiency symptoms, which include inappropriate calcification.

Magnesium and vitamin K2 complement each other, as magnesium helps lower blood pressure, which is an important component of heart disease. So anytime you’re taking any of the following: magnesium, calcium, vitamin D3, or vitamin K2, you need to take all the others into consideration as well, since these all work together with one another.

Dietary Sources of Calcium and Magnesium

Calcium. You can typically get enough calcium from your diet by eating nuts, seeds, deep green leafy vegetables, and dairy products. Homemade bone broth is another excellent source. Simply simmer leftover bones over low heat for an entire day to extract the calcium from the bones. (See my Blog Entry on Bone Broth)

Magnesium, on the other hand, tends to be a bit scarcer in our modern food supply.

Magnesium has been farmed out of the soil much more than calcium.  A hundred years ago, we would get maybe 500 mgs of magnesium in an ordinary diet. Now we’re lucky to get 200 mgs. So, you do need to supplement with magnesium

Industrial agriculture has massively depleted most soils of beneficial minerals like magnesium. If you find biologically-grown organic foods (grown on soil treated with mineral fertilizers), you may still be able to get a lot of your magnesium from your food.

Chlorophyll has a magnesium atom in its centre, allowing plants to use the suns energy. Seaweed and green leafy vegetables like spinach and Swiss chard can be excellent sources of magnesium, as are some beans, nuts and seeds, like pumpkin, sunflower and sesame seeds. Avocados also contain magnesium.

Juicing your own vegetables is an excellent option to ensure you’re getting enough in your diet.

However, most foods grown today lack magnesium and other minerals. Herbicides and pesticides block the plant’s natural uptake and use of minerals.

As a result, I believe it would be unusual for anyone to have access to foods that are rich in magnesium, which is why I believe it is wise to consider a magnesium supplement.

This is my personal strategy even though I am lucky to have access to highly nutrient rich organic food.

Which Form of Magnesium Is Best?

Be aware that there are several different forms of magnesium.

The best sort is Magnesium glycinate a form of magnesium that tends to provide the highest levels of absorption and is typically considered ideal for those who are trying to correct a deficiency.

The cheapest sources of magnesium are magnesium oxide supplements, which are poorly absorbed by your body. A mere four percent is absorbed when you take this kind. The remaining 96 percent goes through your intestines, which is why magnesium oxide tends to have a laxative effect, which can be useful if you are challenged with constipation.

Besides taking a supplement, another way to improve your magnesium status is to take regular Epsom salt baths. Epsom salt is a magnesium sulphate that can absorb into your body through your skin.


Magnesium oil (from magnesium chloride) can also be used for topical application and absorption.(Which I use – a lot !!)

The reason for the wide variety of magnesium supplements on the market is because the magnesium must be bound to another substance. There’s no such thing as a 100% magnesium compound supplement.

The substance used in any given supplement compound can affect the absorption and bioavailability of the magnesium, and may provide slightly different, or targeted, health benefits:

Magnesium glycinate is a form of magnesium that tends to provide the highest levels of absorption and bioavailability and is typically considered ideal for those who are trying to correct a deficiency Magnesium oxide is a type of magnesium, bound to an organic acid or a fatty acid. Contains 60 percent magnesium and has stool softening properties
Magnesium chloride / Magnesium lactate contain only 12 percent magnesium, but has better absorption than others, such as magnesium oxide, which contains five times more magnesium Magnesium sulphate / Magnesium hydroxide (milk of magnesia) are typically used as a laxative. Be aware that it’s easy to overdose on these, so ONLY take as directed
Magnesium carbonate, which has antacid properties, contains 45 percent magnesium Magnesium taurate contains a combination of magnesium and taurine, an amino acid. Together, they tend to provide a calming effect on your body and mind
Magnesium citrate is magnesium with citric acid, which has laxative properties Magnesium threonate is a newer, type of magnesium supplement that appears promising, primarily due to its ability to penetrate cell membrane

Prescription Drugs may reduce your Magnesium

Two major lifestyle factors that deplete your body of magnesium are stress and prescription drugs.

Unfortunately, the conventional medical approach for dealing with stress often leads to prescription drugs, making your situation progressively worse.

  • The scenario is very basic.
  • You go to your doctor. You’re under massive stress.
  • Massive stress means you’re losing magnesium.
  • You’re burning magnesium out of your body, because it helps support your adrenal glands. It helps keep you away from anxiety and depression.
  • It helps relax your muscles.
  • If you’re all tight and stressed, your magnesium is being lost, which makes the muscles of your blood vessels tighten. That tightness is going to cause increased blood pressure.
  • Your doctor… will say, ‘Oh, your blood pressure is elevated. We’ll give you a diuretic.’
  • The diuretic will drop the fluid level in your body to take the pressure off your blood vessels, so your blood pressure will drop. But diuretics also drain off your magnesium… A month later you come back, and the doctor finds your blood pressure’s even more elevated. Yes—because you’ve just lost more magnesium! Your doctor then puts you on a calcium channel blocker.
  • Now, they have that part right. They know that without magnesium, your calcium is going to become elevated and will tighten up your blood vessels, so they try to block calcium. But they don’t know that magnesium is a natural calcium channel blocker.
  • Your doctor may also put you on another blood pressure drug… So, you go away with three drugs now. After two or three months, you come back and have blood taken to make sure that drugs aren’t hurting your liver… All of a sudden, your cholesterol and blood sugar is elevated.
  • What does the doctor say? ‘Oh, we just caught your cholesterol and blood sugar in time. We can put you on medication for that.’

But they didn’t catch them; they caused them. And …So it goes…

The more you deplete your magnesium, the more out of control your cholesterol will get, because magnesium helps balance the enzyme that creates cholesterol in your body, helping your cholesterol levels. Interestingly, statins destroy the same enzyme that magnesium balances.

Magnesium deficiency is also a common symptom in diabetes, so drugs may inadvertently contribute to diabetes simply by depleting your body of magnesium.

In short.

Take 400mgs per day of Magnesium Glycinate for better health.

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Detox your Body – A Rough Guide.

Toxins are the cause of a large number of illnesses. As well as toxins there are a number of other factors that can cause sickness: stress, troublesome glands, parasites, viruses, bacteria but also sugar, refined carbohydrates, processes foodstuffs, food preservatives, pesticide residue in food, heavy metals present in your body etc.

Your immune system naturally, instinctively, gets rid of toxins in your body through various methods that you will probably recognise although not be great fans of. The most famous and popular would be fever, sweating profusely at night, throwing up, and diarrhoea.

All of which you can bring up as a grim tale around the table at a particularly unpleasant dinner party, which you didn’t want to go to in the first place.

Most of the time these endearing methods of expulsion mean a few days in bed, then a couple of “feel  sorry for myself” days off work and then “back to normal”. However, there comes a tipping point where your body recognises that you are taking the piss. Your body at this point cannot get back to normal and gets its revenge by unleashing the equivalent of localised civil war.

The two opposing sides being you, and your lifestyle, against your body.

Your body then becomes a bit of a bastard and unleashes various weapons of mirth and merriment (from its point of view) such as …

  • Diabetes
  • Arthritis
  • Asthma
  • Eczema, Psoriasis
  • IBS
  • etc

If it gets really upset it can move on to use its big arsenal and play the Weapons of Mass Destruction Cards:

  • Cancers (Various)
  • Fibromyalgia
  • MS
  • Crohns Disease
  • Etc

Eat a Healthy Diet

Avoid food that contains wheat, gluten, soya and lactose. In general these will cause your body to produce mucosa and could lead to sinus, chest, and other problems – that “bunged up” feeling. It’s about three years since I cut these factors from my diet and no longer have any migraines, sinus issues coughs or colds. All of which used to plague me beforehand.

Also avoid processed food, fried food or GM foods (genetically modified) all of which can lead to health problems in the long term.

The rest of the “No-No” list would include refined sugar, ANY sweeteners which generally contain aspartame and/ or ace-K, trans-fats and hydrogenated oils such as Canola.

Cutting down on caffeine and alcohol will also help to feel better on a day to day basis.

Try, wherever possible, to eat organic so that you avoid taking in toxins from chemically manufactured pesticides. Increase your intake of healthy fats (Omega 3) such as Coconut Oil, avocado, olive oil and nuts and seeds.

Invest in some kind of water purifying system for drinking and cooking water. For example, we have a distiller which takes out toxins, heavy metals, fluoride etc from tap water. At least we can be confident that we are just using water (H2O) and not H2O plus this that and God knows what. You could consider water filtration or reverse osmosis systems, but this always boils down to effort and budget, unfortunately.

Beware, when deciding, of the “I can’t be bothered syndrome”, for which the only known cure is a kick up the backside.

Finally, you could opt for an alkaline diet which is very beneficial for your health because in general terms these types of foods are weak in sodium but strong in potassium.

Clean Your Liver

Your liver is the organ which is most sensitive to toxins because it filters and treats your blood. In order to clear the liver of toxins you could try taking:

  • Burdock Root
  • Dandelion Root
  • Milk Thistle
  • Jerusalem Artichokes
  • Garlic
  • Turmeric
  • Fermented Foods (act as a Probiotic)
  • Organic eggs, fish, nuts and seeds

During a liver detox you should really drink carrot juice (made in a juicer from organic carrots – not bought off the shelf) and green acidic apples for a week to help get rid of any gallstones.

You should also finish off your liver detox with a spoonful of olive oil and a spoonful of fresh lemon juice just before going to bed. This will continue your detox action through the night.

Cleanse your Kidneys

There are certain herbs, plants and fruits that are particularly effective at cleaning your kidneys. In particular:

  • Ginger, raw or more beneficially in a juice.
  • Black cherries, again raw or in a juice.
  • If you can get them horsetail and golden rod are really good kidney detoxers.

Easier routes to a kidney detox are:

  • Drinking water with lemon juice on an empty stomach, first thing in the morning.
  • Magnesium therapy (Epsom Salt baths etc.)
  • Organic cranberry juice.
  • Apple cider vinegar drinks.

Once again, avoid all foodstuffs treated with pesticides as in the long term some of the chemicals present could lead to renal failure.

Purify your Colon

I think that it is stating the obvious that to have a healthy colon you need to have regular movement. By that, I don’t mean continually flapping your arms about.

Without getting into the whole colonic irrigation / enema malarkey, there is a really good traditional Ayuvedic Herb called Triphala which is a very effective colon cleanser.

Other than that, try:

  • Distilled water drinks.
  • Aloe Vera Juice.
  • Coconut Water
  • Kefir Milk

Finally, eat lots of ginger, garlic and fennel to clear out toxins from your colon.

Eliminate Heavy Metals

There are certain heavy metals that can be present in your body such as mercury and lead, that are extremely toxic even in small amounts. They need to be removed quickly and efficiently on a regular basis.

From a food perspective the best foodstuffs rich in sulphur to do this job would include:

  • Coriander
  • Cabbage
  • Onions
  • Garlic
  • Brussel Sprouts

Look after your Lymphatic System.

Your lymphatic system is essentially a complex sewer system. Unfortunately, unlike the heart it doesn’t have a pump. This is a fundamental design flaw in the human body and someone really cocked up at the prototype stage. As a consequence, it is up to you to keep the lymph moving otherwise (like a sewer it gets all clogged up and the results are not only messy but seriously damaging to your health).

By far and away the best way to sort your lymphatic system out is rebounding. That is to say, two or three minutes a day on a small trampoline. Failing that, saunas (Infrared or steam) yoga, Pilates, skipping (with or without a rope) deep breathing or dry brushing of your skin in the lymph area and Epsom Salt Baths would be effective.

As a general rule, any form of regular exercise that works up a sweat will help to get the lymph draining and eliminate toxins.


Taking care of your body means taking care of all the key components.

Do this and have a hopefully happy and healthy life.

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Statin the Obvious

I have had a couple of conversations with people in the last month about Statins. Coincidentally, I came across this article today in the Magazine “What Doctors Don’t Tell You”.

As usual, the tale is one of drugs giving a benefit to the drug company, rather than to the patient.

The long term solution, once again, seemingly lies in diet rather than a “Quick fix pill”.

Hence, “Statin the Obvious”. Here is the article for anyone who is interested…..

Statins are the world’s best-selling drugs. Designed to lower our levels of ‘bad’ LDL (low-density lipoprotein) cholesterol—the stuff that blocks arteries and causes heart disease—they are the ultimate just-in-case drug given even to healthy people when they’ve reached the age of 50 or so.

Not surprisingly, they are seen as life-savers. The UK’s drugs assessor, the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE), reckons the drugs could save 50,000 lives a year if every British male over the age of 60 and female over 65 took them regularly. Because of this enormous benefit, doctors in the UK are encouraged to start every 60-year-old on statins, whether or not there are heart problems or any risk of developing cardiovascular disease.

Yet the cost to the UK taxpayer is enormous. The bill for statins runs to around £450 million a year, which can be added to the drug’s worldwide revenues of around £20 billion . But if the drugs are saving that many lives every year, the cost is fully justified.

However, NICE estimates of lives saved seem to be wildly at odds with the evidence. Researchers from multiple centres across the UK reckon the drugs would save just 750 lives in the UK every year. They looked at death rates from  heart disease between 2000 and 2007, and noted that numbers had fallen by 38,000.

Just 1,800 could be directly attributable to statins; the vast majority were due to changes in lifestyle, such as improvements in diet and exercise.

But what does it even mean to save lives? Surprisingly, scientists seem to be vague about this; often a life is considered ‘saved’ when compared with someone else, usually a participant not given the drug being tested who died while the trial was being conducted. It’s a form of statistical juggling that has meaning within the tight logical framework of a scientific study.

Danish researchers decided to take a closer look at this  ill-defined area, and came up with a very surprising discovery. Rather than looking for lives saved, they instead used a more precise measure: the average postponement of death. With this definition, the scientists were able to see exactly how long people lived after their lives were considered ‘saved’—and the average was between just three and four days.

In other words, statins were extending life by an average of up to four days in people with a heart problem who were taking  statins. The greatest extension of life across the 11 studies they reanalyzed was 27 days in heart patients who took a statin for more than five years; at best, these statin patients were living nearly a month longer than someone not taking the drug.

This very modest benefit has been seen in other trials. In one review, patients with heart disease had their risk of death reduced by just 1.2 per cent if they took a statin for five years, but even that benefit disappears in people who don’t have heart disease. For those with a less than 20 per cent chance of developing heart disease over the next 10 years, there is absolutely no benefit in taking a statin.

If they’re not helping us live longer, do statins at least offer protection from a heart attack or stroke that might leave us debilitated or destroy our quality of life? Again, the benefits are hard to see: the drugs achieve a one in 140 risk reduction for a non-fatal heart attack or stroke in people who have a low risk—which means less than 10 per cent—of heart disease over the next 10 years.

Put another way, the drugs are no better than a placebo, or sugar pill, say the researchers from Cambridge University who reviewed 11 statin studies involving more than 65,000 people, half of whom were taking the drugs. Those not taking a statin had higher levels of LDL cholesterol, yet similar numbers from both groups had died during the four years of the study, suggesting there is more to heart disease than ‘bad’ cholesterol and statin therapy.

Two researchers from University College Hospital in Galway, Ireland, came to a similar conclusion when they took a fresh look at 55 studies that had previously been published. Instead of seeing benefits, they found that people taking statins weren’t living longer and were just as likely to develop heart disease as those not taking the drugs. Worse, women, diabetics and young people taking a statin were actually more likely to develop heart disease.

The possibility that statins actually increase the risk of heart disease and death was beginning to emerge in the Illuminate trial—later described by researchers as medicine’s best-kept secret—before it was hurriedly closed down after participants started dying suddenly or developed cancer.

How can this be when health regulators, like  NICE, are so positive about the enormous benefits of statins? The studies they rely on to shape public-health policy are invariably funded by drug manufacturers, which have a vested commercial interest in achieving a very positive outcome.

To put it starkly, drug companies use “statistical deception” to exaggerate the benefits and downplay the risks of statins, say two researchers, who reckon the drugs help just 1 per cent of the population.

Researchers David Diamond, of the Veterans Hospital in Tampa, Florida, and independent researcher Dr Uffe Ravnskov ran the data again from some of the biggest statin trials and concluded that the drug-company funders had used statistical deception to create the illusion that statins are wonder drugs, when the reality is that their modest benefits are more than offset by “the numerous adverse effects of statin treatment”.

In the UK, NICE’s decision to expand the group being prescribed a statin was partly influenced by the Cholesterol Treatment Trialists Collaboration (CTT) which, it was  revealed, was receiving substantial funding from drug companies; for example, Merck, one of the biggest manufacturers of statins, had donated £217 million.

Side-effects and adverse reactions are common among statin patients. One population-based survey—USAGE (Understanding Statin use in America and Gaps in Education)—has revealed that up to half the people taking statins stop within the first year, with 62 per cent citing some side-effect—such as muscle weakness, joint pain, nausea or ‘brain fog’—as the reason.

At best, statins may have some marginal benefit in those who already have heart disease—but they would do just as well, if not better, by eating a healthier diet—while no independent evidence even suggests that the world’s most successful drugs do a thing to benefit the rest of us.

Cholesterol: What’s your score?

Just as many know their blood-pressure reading, so they are familiar with their cholesterol ‘number’. The ideal score is 5 mmol/L (millimoles per litre of blood), which is made up of 1.3 mmol/L of HDL (high-density lipoprotein), the ‘good’ cholesterol, and 3.7 mmol/L of LDL cholesterol, although doctors like to see the HDL reading at 2 or higher.

The typical score in the UK is around 6.1, and any LDL reading above 4 will automatically trigger a prescription for a statin.

But your cholesterol score is more the stuff of fashion than health. Go back 20 years and the healthy score was around 7, and this was lowered to 6.5 10 years ago before reaching today’s .

It’s predicted to fall again soon to 4—currently the ideal score for anyone who has already suffered a heart attack—and cardiologists reckon it will then drop to just 2.5 over the next 10 years.

Just eat well

Eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly can prevent six times the number of deaths from heart disease as can a statin.

If statin drugs save 750 lives every year in the UK, as UK researchers suggest, then healthier lifestyle choices could save 4,600 lives.

This makes sense because up to 80 per cent of cardiovascular disease is caused by lifestyle choices, such as an unhealthy diet of junk food, smoking, drinking too much alcohol and being physically inactive.

A bad diet seems to be the major cause of heart disease and, conversely, eating healthily has the greatest protective effect. In fact, eating just one apple a day has the same protective effect as a statin for preventing a heart attack in someone who is healthy. The Mediterranean diet, especially when supplemented with 30 g/day of nuts or 4 Tbsp of extra-virgin olive oil, can reduce the risk of a heart attack or stroke by a third.

Intriguingly, these risk reductions are seen even in people with high levels of ‘bad’ LDL cholesterol

“Concentrating on LDL-lowering alone as an end in itself might be counterproductive. Indeed, insulin resistance may emerge as the single most important determinant of coronary artery disease,” says leading cardiologist Dr Aseem Malhotra, of Frimley Park Hospital in Surrey, UK.

Stressing the negative

A bad diet may be the major cause of heart disease, followed closely by smoking and inactivity. But is there another cause? Dr Malcolm Kendrick, author of The Great Cholesterol Con (John Blake, 2007), reckons that stress and isolation are unrecognized causes, and ones that are growing with the rise of the nuclear family.

Although stress may be a good thing to help us overcome a challenge, the persistent kind, when we feel powerless and there’s no end in sight, can lead to heart disease, he believes. This can include working for a bullying boss, having long-term money worries and suffering from constant racist abuse,etc. etc.

Some food for thought.