For those unable to attend Julie’s Funeral – My Eulogy to her
Goodnight Sweetheart – Sleep Well………………
It was a dark and stormy night the first time that I met Jules on Dec 9th 2009. We immediately clicked.
After a couple of more dates she invited me to her house for Christmas Dinner on Christmas Day.
As it turns out it was a truly memorable meal, because it was the only one that she has ever cooked for me.
She would often say that her main forte in the kitchen was “warming things up”.
If there was a TV programme called “The Great British Warmer Upperer” –she would win it hands down.
Fortunately for us , it snowed like Billy ho that Christmas . Roads were blocked and so on, and to cut a long story short I went to Julies for Christmas Day Lunch and didn’t leave till the middle of January.
From that day forward we were inseparable.
18 months later we got the news ……………
We would have several high powered meetings to discuss medical matters with the Cancer team at Christies (the top Cancer Hospital in the North of England)
Which was great…
After every meeting I would ask Jules “What did you think of that ?”
She would invariably say “What a bunch of Knobheads, they have no idea what they are talking about.”
She was her own woman
From the start, she point blank refused radiation, chemotherapy and drugs such as Tamoxofin to treat her illness on the basis that it would ruin her immune system and stop her living life to the full, in the time that she had left.
The pressure to conform to the norm was enormous. But she stood her ground and I supported her tooth and nail. We became a formidable team and we completely changed our lifestyle.
Instead she choose to ……………..
- No Sugar
- No chemicals etc
And just build up her body to fight this insidious illness and live the best life that we possibly could,
And so we did.
We knew that the clock was ticking. Her only regret was that we would not have the luxury of an old age together.
So we decided to sod everything and have our old age right now .
So we retired and decided to travel
- Norway (Nul point)
- Portugal – six times
- France – drove to the south of France twice with the caravan and the dogs
- Malta (Douze points)
- Alaska in the US
- Florida in the US
- The Caribbean including amongst others …………
- Puerto Rico
- St Kitts and Nevis
- And last but not least
- Garstang ………..
Garstang was one of the first places that we tried out what Julie would call our “Caravan of Luurve”
You know ……. “Don’t come knocking, if the Caravan’s a Rocking” !!!!
We had endless happy weekends and, indeed weeks, with our camping buddies, her cousin Corinne and Ian and other great folks that we met along the way.
She was always happy around cars, lorries and transport in general.
She was Cab Happy as she would say.
Just last September we went to Croatia to meet up with our Canadian friends
Normal people would go to Manchester Airport, get on a plane and Relax. Not our Jules ….
Oh No – We were going to drive …
She said all we have to do is drive through Belgium, Holland, Germany, Austria, Slovenia, Bosnia and we will be there …..!!!!
I could never win – and off we trolled
Her love of transport was enhanced by being Manager at Leach Transport and latterly working with Mark and John at RMS . She absolutely adored working with all of you.
She was practical too. I remember once we were going to see our fabulous holistic people in Shropshire and we had a tyre blow out in the fast lane on the M6 at half past seven in the morning, which is not the best place to be.
We managed to get onto the hard shoulder .
She said “Don’t Panic, Just keep hold of the F ing Dog” and within seven minutes she had changed the tyre and we were off.
It was like watching a Formula one pit stop
On the transport theme her favourite perfume was not Chanel or Dior but “Eau de Diesel” .
If i was feeling lucky , a couple of dabs of Esso Blue behind my ears at night and we were off …..
Too much information ……….I know
Another One of Julie’s characteristics was that she was selfless at helping other people.
In fact, one of the many cards that I received reflects that part of her personality. It was from someone that I don’t know and have never met.
“She was one in ten million, or more. What a wonderful person Julie was. She looked after me when I got into a right bloody mess on drink. She took me under her wing. That‘s the sort of person she was.
Not only was Julie widely respected in Rochdale, she also cast her smile across the globe. Today, there are people who cannot be here from Vancouver to Sydney and places in between who have told me that they will be wearing Red in her honour.
She had a special bond with her Canadian friends with whom we had many fantastic, exotic and boisterous times. In fact I can share with you an Email from her special Canadian friend Sandra.
“I am so sorry that I am not able to deal with what is happening
I believe that Julie knows how much I love her and know that you are the support that she wishes.
She is an amazing woman that i have had the honour of being close to. We have shared so many memories and tons of love. Over the last passing months I have reminisced with laughter and tears .
She has an enormous place in my heart. I love her ….and always will ….today, tomorrow and always…..”
I met Julie on the basis of a huge smile that she posted on the internet.
A smile that would melt my heart, and a lot of others who crossed paths with her.
That smile completely changed both of our lives.
We became best friends, lovers and ended up with the perfect marriage.
It was perfect because we ticked all the boxes to which we agreed on New Year’s Eve 2011 when we got married.
We agreed to be:
- For richer – we did that
- For poorer – we did that
- In sickness – we did that
- In Health – we did that
- Till Death us do part
It’s the last one that I’m not too keen on, but thanks Jules for being perfect.